TY  - BOOK
AU  - Karen,Robert
TI  - Becoming attached: first relationships and how they shape our capacity to love 
SN  - 9780199398799
AV  - BF720.M68 K37 2024
U1  - 306.8743 23
PY  - 2024///]
CY  - New York, NY
PB  - Oxford University Press
KW  - Mother and infant
KW  - Attachment behavior
KW  - Mother and child
N1  - Revised edition of the author's Becoming attached, 1998; Includes bibliographical references and index; Introduction: Does love matter? -- Mother-Love: Worst-Case Scenarios -- Enter Bowlby: The Search for a Theory of Relatedness -- Bowlby and Klein: Fantasy vs. Reality -- Psychopaths in the Making: Forty-four Juvenile Thieves -- Call to Arms: The World Health Report -- First Battlefield: A Two-Year-Old Goes to Hospital -- Of Goslings and Babies: The Birth of Attachment Theory -- "What's the Use to Psychoanalyze a Goose?" Turmoil, Hostility, and Debate -- Monkey Love: Warm, Secure, Continuous
N2  - "Love is the good we all search for, and yet we have different conceptions (and misconceptions) about what it is, ambivalence about how close we want to get to it, doubts about whether we can achieve it or even deserve it. Some of us repeat futile patterns with intimates, mates, and children to the point where we may question whether we are capable of close, satisfying relationships at all. At times it feels as if the shadow of our parents hangs over us like a fate we cannot elude. And we wonder: How much do our childhoods, and especially the quality of our first loving bonds, determine whether we can get love right as adults?"--
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