When you and your mother can't be friends : resolving the most complicated relationship of your life /
Resolving the most complicated relationship of your life
Victoria Secunda.
- xxii, 406 pages ; 24 cm
Includes bibliographical references and index.
Natural allies, natural enemies -- Good mommy / bad mommy -- The bad mommy taboo -- The evolution of the unpleasable mother -- The doormat -- The critic -- The smotherer -- The avenger -- The deserter -- Balancing act -- The angel -- The superachiever -- The cipher -- The troublemaker -- Breaking the cycle -- Redefining the mother-daughter relationship -- Friendship -- Truce -- Divorce -- Epilogue : five generations, one family album.
"How to end the cycle of mother-daughter conflict and break free from the past. When you look into the mirror, do you see your mother? When you deal with your children do you hear yourself saying things you vowed you never would? In this extraordinary book, Victoria Secunda examines the most complex relationship of your life and offers a way of coming to terms with the ghosts of the past before they return to haunt the next generation. Learn how: your relationship with your mother colours all other relationships - including your choice of mate; to recognise the difference between a healthy mother-daughter relationship and a destructive one; mothers manipulate daughters - and how daughters react; to stop the cycle of anger, blame, false expectations, crushed hopes and disappointments; why you tend to become your mother's opposite - or her twin - and how to find your truest self. Drawing on years of research and hundreds of interviews, Victoria Secunda shows you how to let go, gain understanding and acceptance - or achieve a separate peace at last."--Back cover.
0385304234 9780385304238
Mothers and daughters. Interpersonal conflict. Parent-Child Relations Mothers--psychology.