TY  - BOOK
AU  - Porter,Louise
AU  - MacMullin,Peter
TI  - Children are people too: a parent's guide to young children's behaviour 
SN  - 0975114581
AV  - HQ755.8 .P67 2006
U1  - 649.1 23
PY  - 2006///]
CY  - Bowden, SA
PB  - East Street Publications
KW  - Parenting
KW  - Handbooks, manuals, etc
KW  - Child rearing
KW  - Self-esteem
KW  - Psychological aspects
N1  - Previous edition: Lonsdale, SA : Small Poppies, 2001; Includes bibliographical references (pages 262-267) and index; Part One. The basics of discipline -- Part Two. Responding to inconsiderate behaviour -- Part Three. Specific behavioural challenges -- --; Part One; The basics of discipline -- --; 1; Fundamentals of a guidance approach --; Two styles of discipline --; Conclusion -- --; 2; Reasons not to punish or reward --; Effectiveness --; Disadvantages of punishment in general --; Disadvantages of specific punishments --; Disadvantages of rewards in general --; Disadvantages of specific rewards --; Phasing out rewards --; Conclusion -- --; 3; The three R's: rules, rights and responsibilities --; Rules --; Rights --; Children's responsibilities --; Conclusion -- --; 4; Meeting children's needs --; Human needs --; Belonging --; Self-esteem --; Autonomy --; Conclusion -- --; 5; Communicating to solve problems --; Listening --; Assertiveness --; Collaborative problem solving --; Conclusion -- --; Part Two; Responding to inconsiderate behaviour -- --; 6; Origins of inconsiderate behaviour --; Internal causes --; Reactive behaviours --; The attention-seeking myth --; Responses to the behaviour types --; Conclusion -- --; 7; Everyday responses to behavioural disruptions --; Give positive instructions --; Change the demand --; Avoid escalating confrontations --; Work as a team --; Conclusion -- --; 8; Teaching children emotional self-control --; Explain growing up --; Teach adaptive thinking --; Help children regain emotional control --; Consistency --; Conclusion -- --; 9; Resolving chronic behavioural difficulties --; Check your preventative measures --; Refine present approaches --; Do something different --; Give up --; Warn about relapses --; Conclusion -- --; 10; Discipling in public --; Responding to your own child in public --; Responding to someone else's child --; Conclusion -- --; Part Three; Specific behavioural challenges -- --; 11; Self-management skills --; Disturbed sleeping patterns --; Eating --; Toilet learning --; Dressing --; Separating from parents --; Reunions --; Fears --; Uncooperativeness --; Stealing --; Homework --; Music practice --; Chores --; Tidying up toys --; Destructiveness --; Conclusion -- --; 12; Social skills --; Shyness --; Sharing --; Isolation --; Refusal to include other child in play --; Aggression --; Biting --; Lack of remorse --; Bullying --; Prejudice and discrimination --; Rough and tumble play --; Super hero play --; Sibling rivalry --; Children's disputes --; Telling tales --; Lost friends --; Succumbing to peer pressure --; Use of manners --; Telling lies --; Expressing anger at parents --; 'Answering back' --; Swearing --; Conclusion -- --; 13; Atypical development --; Language skills --; Refusal to talk (selective mutism) --; Articulation errors --; Baby talk --; Asking repeated questions --; Sensory integration difficulties --; The autism spectrum disorders --; The attention-deficit disorders --; Oppositional defiance disrder (ODD) --; Children with disabilities --; Gifted children --; Conclusion -- --; 14; Family issues --; Raising girls and boys --; Grandparents --; Bereavement --; Separation and divorce --; Intermittent parental absence --; Single parenthood --; Repartnered families --; Spouse abuse --; Child abuse --; Conclusion
N2  - Dr Porter explains why a controlling approach to children's behaviour usually results in more work for parents and long- term problems for children. Dr Porter advocates a guidance approach to raising children, arguing that it will result in their being more confident, considerate, co-operative and independent
ER  -